Have you ever lost touch with a friend? It happens. People grow apart. People move. People change. Sometimes moving on is a good thing.
But one day you realize that you haven’t seen or talked to a friend with whom you once had regular contact. You wonder what’s going on. Is s/he upset with you? Has s/he moved on and left you behind? Has s/he found new friends or interests? Is s/he just too busy for you anymore?
Well, maybe it’s not about you.
Maybe s/he can’t get out of bed in the morning because s/he couldn’t sleep last night.
Maybe s/he can’t get out of the house because the world just seems too big.
Maybe s/he can't get out of bed because s/he can't face another day of uncertainty.
Maybe s/he can only focus on what is right in front of her/him and making plans is just too overwhelming.
Maybe s/he thinks that you will judge her/him.
Maybe s/he is feeling angry and frustrated and scared because s/he can’t do the things s/he once did with ease.
Maybe s/he has lost interest in the things that s/he once enjoyed.
Maybe s/he's feeling restless and irritable and doesn't consider her/himself good company.
Maybe s/he is feeling worthless and not of value to you anymore.
Maybe s/he doesn't feel well.
Maybe s/he’s experiencing depression.
Maybe, it's not about you.
If you have a friend whom you think may be experiencing depression, reach out. Be gentle. Don't expect her/him to respond to a big gesture. Try something that doesn't necessarily require a response, like a card. And don't give up. Remember...it's not about you.
Check out the Depression Hurts website for information about depression and how you can help a friend (see "Information for Family & Friends" tab).
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