Letter writing as a journaling
technique is used in different ways for different reasons. Sometimes you write
a letter to yourself. Sometimes you write to someone who has passed. Sometimes
you write to a fictional character. This form of journaling is often referred
to as Unsent Letters.
Letters written as part of a
journaling exercise are not written to be sent or given to anyone. They are a
way for you to process your experiences. They are personal. They are for your
benefit. You may want to keep your letter as a reminder of your personal growth
or maybe you just want to destroy it as part of moving on. Tearing a letter
into a hundred little pieces can feel cathartic.
Letter writing is often used as a
tool for processing grief. When you experience a loss there is almost always something
that could have been said in the past or something that needs to be said about
the future. Writing a letter can help you develop clarity.
Letter writing can also promote
healing when you have suffered a traumatic experience. It can help you cope
with anxiety and manage anger. It can help you deal with frustration. It can
help you to embrace forgiveness.
Looking for an affirming experience?
Try writing a letter to yourself. Acknowledge your personal and/or professional
accomplishments. Praise and encourage yourself. Make plans for positive steps
forward.
Letter writing as a journaling
strategy helps you to organize and evaluate your thoughts. It helps you release
feelings that you have buried. It helps you to develop insight. It can also promote
self-reflection and self-regulation.
Letter writing for the purpose of
journaling may feel awkward when you first give it a try. Remember that you are
the only person who will see this letter. You may sometimes be your own worst
enemy, but you can also be your own best friend. As the mole said, “Being kind
to yourself is one of the greatest kindnesses.” (1)
It all starts with paper and pen. No
fancy stationery required, although that might be fun. Salutations and closings
are flexible. Spelling and grammar are not evaluated. It’s just you writing an
unsent letter.
Dear Me,
I’ve been meaning to write to you
for some time now…
Reference:
1. Mackesy, C. (2019). The
Boy, the mole, the fox and the Horse. First HarperOne.
